When the moon is full, it wanes; when a vessel is full, it spills over; in all things, excess leads to a reversal of fortune.
In interpersonal relationships, it is important to maintain a certain distance and grasp the appropriate boundaries. Being too close can lead to conflicts, while being too distant can cause estrangement.
Whether it's about how we conduct ourselves or deal with things, we must remember the "80/20 rule"!
80% tolerance, 20% self-reflection
We often find ourselves living up to others' expectations, and when those expectations are not met, we unconsciously fall into frustration and self-blame. Most of the troubles in life stem from this.
It is certainly not wrong to strive to do your best, but if you immerse yourself in negative emotions because you haven't met your ideal expectations, you are being too hard on yourself.
In the course of a lifetime, it's impossible to have everything go perfectly. Imperfections and mistakes are part of life. Instead of carrying all the burdens and letting them weigh us down, it is better to let go and make peace with ourselves.
Instead of being entangled with trivial matters in our minds, it is better to be detached and light-hearted, and try to reconcile with ourselves.
With 80% tolerance and 20% self-reflection, perhaps we can live a simpler and happier life.
80% respect,20% advice
The Irish writer Robert Lynd once said, "Friendship never withstands long and frequent advice."
Friends who are "always ready to teach" often like to use their own life experiences to guide others' lives.
But they overlook the fact that life is like drinking water, and we know what's hot and cold for ourselves.
In everyone's heart, there is a personal metric to measure everything in the world.
As the saying goes, "Close enough to be kin, but not cross the line." Even with the best friends, it's essential to leave room for respect.
A good relationship is not built on constant advice, but on expressing different opinions while knowing when to stop, giving others the space to make their own decisions.
Mutual respect in friendship can withstand the test of time.
80% speaking with consideration,20% staying reserved
"Not everything should be done, as doing everything leads to trouble. Not everything should be said, as saying everything hurts others."
One kind word can warm the three coldest months, while one hurtful word can chill you for six months.
When speaking, think first. Giving face to others is giving yourself a way out.
Speak kindly, avoid harsh words. Leave room for two calmer thoughts, and you won't invite hatred.
When dealing with matters, put in 80% effort, and don't be overbearing. Leave 20% room, and you will receive gratitude.
80% giving,20% leaving space
Truly wise people do not exhaust themselves to please others; instead, they understand the importance of balance and leave room for 20% reservation while giving 80%.
They know that excessive giving only nurtures greed, and it is only by relinquishing some responsibilities that they can receive consideration from others.
A flower is most beautiful when it's half-bloomed, and love is strongest when there is room for reserve. Give 80% of your love, and others will cherish you, leave 20% for yourself, and love yourself.
Only when love is not overwhelming, but with some reservation, can a marriage achieve dynamic balance and emotional fulfillment.
80% understanding,20% self-expression
Have you ever had this experience?
The times have changed, and aging parents are embarrassed to ask you how to post on social media;
When the weather gets chilly, your parents who live far away call to remind you to dress warmly;
And you often reply impatiently:
"Okay, I know" "You can buy all those things outside" "I'm fine, bye"...
When we strive in the outside world, we often hide our sharp edges, but when we are with our parents, we become self-absorbed.
We may win arguments and debates, but we also hurt our parents' hearts.
Remember, no matter how much the world changes, the love between parents and children will never fade.
The comfortable bond of family is often subject to the "80/20 rule":
Show 20% of your true self in response to your parents' love, and express your genuine feelings to them;
Offer 80% understanding to their vulnerabilities, and appreciate their wholehearted love for their child.
There is a balance in life. Overdoing and excess bring harm, but moderation brings goodness.
Whether with friends, loved ones, or parents, let's remember the "80/20 rule" and strive for a harmonious and fulfilling life.
